“The other issue is that doctors should not use terms like ‘gay,’ or ‘LGBT,’ because for many young people the terminology is in flux,” said Fisher. Furthermore, the language of sexuality has evolved for young people. ”įisher said there are several studies that have found that most doctors are not trained to ask questions relevant to sexual minorities, and many doctors assume the youth they treat are straight. “Pediatricians and general practitioners are the gateway of youth experiences with health care, but only go once a year, so this is an ideal time to ask. “This is the first study to ask kids about their attitudes on getting sexual health care,” said Fisher, who directs Fordham’s Center for Ethics Education. Several participants said they completed the survey because they wanted to help their community. The nationwide study was conducted anonymously via a questionnaire linked to from a trusted website frequented by gay teens. But when doctors initiated the conversation, they were more forthcoming with vital information that could affect their health. She has so much anger towards me.Fisher was the principle investigator on a recently completed quantitative study that resulted in a paper published in the journal AIDS and Behavior titled “ Patient-Provider Communication Barriers and Facilitators to HIV and STI Preventive Services for Adolescent MSM.” In the study, Fisher found that young males who have sex with males were reticent to discuss sex with their doctors. I also want to support her if she is dealing with her sexual orientation but she won't let me.
Is this a trend? Should I be worried she's so hyperfocused on sex orientation and not other age appropriate things? I'd really hate for her to be rejected as the kid who makes everyone feel uncomfortable discussing this stuff at this age. We live in Nashville now where it's pretty old-fashioned, but we were born and raised in Southern California where there wasn't this tension between the straight and the non-straights.
We have members of our family and close friends who are gay or lesbian. I've talked with her about this and she thinks, again, I have issues with her being bi and doesn't get it that I'm concerned she's being too "in your face" about being bi and she's freaking out her peers.īTW, I've raised her to understand and accept the LGBT community without a doubt.
So I fear she is being rude, making herself appear odd and isolating herself. And these girls are 6th graders and I highly doubt sexuality is on the forefront of their minds. Ok, so WTH? She 11 and I feel it's awfully young to focus this much on sexuality, gay, straight or other. I mentioned that maybe there are other things they have in common and she made a concerning remark about straight people disliking the gay community and how she only connects with her bi, pan, gay, etc friends on tiktok and doesn't need these girls at school. They are straight and don't watch anime, so she has crossed them off her list. then today told me she doesn't hang around her old friends anymore as she doesn't like the same things they do. She seems really happy for 2 weeks at school. I was hoping being around peers would help her recover her cheerful, confident personality. She continued to sink into a depression and hate me after we started online school so I sent her back to regular on-campus school even though I'm concerned about Covid.
My daughter's mental health was in a bad place and I got her a therapist. I don't mind that she's bi (or whatever!) but she crossed serious boundaries speaking with a younger child about inappropriate sexual stuff and the porn. I think she might have confused the reasons I blocked this cousin. Somehow, my daughter identified as being bi-sexual at this time and became hateful towards me for cutting her off from her cousin. We've cut all communications now for 6 months. I didn't know at the time, but the cousin was sharing WAY too much information about how she is bi-sexual, taught her details about all the forms of alternative lifestyles and introduced her to pornography. During Covid 19 & lockdown, she was on the phone & messages constantly with her cousin back home in California who is 14.
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I'm struggling here with how to be supportive while guiding my 11-year-old's behavior.